Tori Roloff Tells Husband She Doesn’t Feel Appreciated for Her Efforts as a Mother: “You Don’t Give Me Any Credit”

On a recent episode of Little People, Big World, Tori Roloff is talking to her husband, Zach Roloff, about the rough day of parenting she had the previous day. She started the conversation by explaining how much she loves being a mother but noted that she does have her limits and they were met the day prior.

She talks about the ‘mom guilt’ she feels whenever she yells or gets upset at her children – especially on the days that she has a lack of patience, which is something every parent can relate to. Her husband responded by saying he doesn’t feel ‘dad guilt’ when he yells at the kids, but this was challenged by Tori.

Walking back on his previous statement, Zach says he does feel guilty ‘every now and then,’ but that it’s not the same guilt that Tori feels – which she agreed with. For Tori, the guilt comes from not feeling like she did enough for her children that day. For Zach, it comes from doing or saying something he shouldn’t. 

During a confessional, Tori Roloff explained that while she was having a lighthearted conversation with her husband, she was also being serious about what she was expressing. The conversation took a slight turn for the worse when Zach started laughing after she said she rarely yells – which she took offense to.

“This is why I get overwhelmed, honestly Zach. Honestly, this is why, because you don’t give me any credit for anything,” said Tori, in response to his disputing her previous claim. She then went on to ask him if he wanted to know what hurt her feelings the other day, which he again kind of laughed off. 

“You don’t even care,” she said before explaining a moment when she was making her child’s lunch. Zach made a comment at the time about her ‘just trying to make it look [cute]’ instead of telling her ‘Tori, thank you for making our children lunch.’ You can tell she was looking for at least a little sympathy from Zach.

She later explained how Zach takes care of the outside of the house, while she takes care of the inside of the house. “I just wish you’d give me a little more credit,” she said, to which he responded by saying, “I do give you credit, but I also hold you accountable” – which she believes is the reason she has bad days.

Zach and Tori Roloff met on his family’s farm and began dating in 2010 after Zach finally built up enough courage to ask her out. The couple got engaged in April 2014 after Zach proposed and got married in July 2015 on his family’s farm – the couple had more than 200 guests in attendance for their special day. 

Their family started growing in January 2017 when their first son, Jackson, was born. They welcomed their daughter, Lilah Ray, in November 2019 and their second son, Josiah Luke, in April 2022. With three children under six years old – including one less than a year old – things can get quite hectic in the house.

Tori Roloff recently shared a seven-month update on their newest child, Josiah. “What a doozy!! We survived our first flu, first airplane ride, and first thanksgiving (barely)! Josiah has had a lot of ups and downs this month, and he’s gained some fun skills!” she said on Twitter, before listing a few milestones.

According to the mother, Josiah has two new teeth, is crawling and rolling around everywhere, found a new ‘voice level,’ loves to eat, recently went on his first airplane trip to Arizona, has a smile that’ll brighten your day, and a cry that’ll ‘tear a heart out.’ “We love this kid so stinking much,” Tori Roloff added.